Buying A Dream Or Empathy

April 17, 2017

Selling a dream

Dreams we all have one or two, but how often does our dream come from someone else’s dream? Remembering your dream first, or are you just in empathy for the original dreamer?

Empathy creates mutual understanding and perspective.   

The next time you’re stuck in a disagreeable conversation, consider changing your strategy.  Instead of waiting to respond, disagree, or move on, try seeing things from the other person’s point of view.  Really imagine you’re them, and pretend you see things exactly the way they do.  With each word that comes out, you’ll feel more and more entitled in your stance.  You feel right, and you find it hard to see things any other way.

Then, respond with compassion, and let them know you get it.  When they’re done expressing themselves completely and feel understood, go back to your own role and personality, and re-evalute the situation.  If you still have something to say, go for it; this time, you will be heard.


Real Compassion

You see, this is one easy example to understand compassion.  Real compassion means you’re able to see things from another person’s point of view.  You’re able to feel for the other person, because you understand what they are going through. 


If you’ve noticed you’re a bit hardened around your outer shell lately, consider practicing compassion.  Often times, we harden into our habits and beliefs as we get older, based upon our life experiences to date.  Yet, we simultaneously crave more intimate relationships, freedom of thought, and fun.  

If you don’t want life to get boring, lonely, and routine, it’s important you practice compassion.  You see, empathy is what forms friendships, tightens existing bonds, and lets someone else know you’ll be there for them.  In turn, he or she will be there for you, also.


The good news:  much like love, empathy is abundant.  You’ll never run out, and you’ll never get hurt being compassionate.  

 One word of caution, however:  being empathetic — or compassionate — does not mean lowering yourself and your energetic state to someone else’s.  It simply means understanding their viewpoint or perspective from their side, rather than our own.  For a moment’s time, you will imagine yourself as this person, but there’s no point in actually taking on their pain, albeit emotional, physical, spiritual, or psychological.  You can feel it for a moment, but make sure not to hold onto any pain or discomfort, as you won’t be much help if you double the trouble.
Think of empathy as your ability to peek into someone else’s reality — see everything that’s going on — and then respond with greater perspective, and without losing your own strength.    



My Life example

Volunteering to help with a church function, I questioned the person in charge of the event. Realizing there was to many variables the menu was changed and not brought before the group who was helping. Advertising had been sent out to invite the community with the set menu. Not knowing how many would attend and who in the group was furnishing the food to be prepared, the menu was changed to accommodate more than anticipated. After spending the day shopping for the event and arriving back home, the person in charge call me to say that her pastor had called her, he was not happy and she had to return the food back to the store. She was in tears, very upset, and left me taking on her offense. It took me awhile to realize that I was not getting the whole story, so I went to the pastor who told me the truth of the matter. Always rely on Biblical principles to make your conclusion to life problems (inside and outside the church).


Come, Adon Yesua Come!
I’m so grateful for you, I normally do not give advise on a subject , but this was a life lesson that I see happening allot in and out of the church.
Remember Forgive and Love,
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